Yog tias koj yuav tsum kaw koj ob lub qhov muag rau ib feeb thiab xav txog koj hnub, cov lus dab tsi koj nco qab hais rau koj cov menyuam rov qab? Muaj feem yuav yog cov lus ceev faj! tau qw tsawg kawg ib zaug lossis ob zaug (tej zaum nrog tsis muaj kev ntaus! thiab leej twg ua qhov no?). Tab sis qhov ntawd tsis yog qhov phem heev, txoj cai? Koj tsuas yog sim ua kom koj cov menyuam - thiab txhua tus uas hla lawv txoj kev - tawm ntawm kev raug mob.
Tab sis ntawm no yog qhov tseem ceeb: Tsis tu ncua qhia cov menyuam kom ceev faj txhais tau tias lawv yuav tsis kawm yuav ua li cas txaus ntshai lossis ua yuam kev. Nws yog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm ob lo lus sib npaug ntawm kev ua niam ua txiv nyoob hoom qav taub (thiab nws cov kwv tij, niam txiv snowplow ).
Kev pheej hmoo txhais tau tias qee zaum ua tsis tiav, sau cov kws paub txog niam txiv Jamie Glowacki hauv Aw Crap! Kuv Muaj Me Nyuam . Yog tias koj tsis muaj kev pheej hmoo, yog tias koj ua si kom nyab xeeb txhua lub sijhawm, koj ntshai tsam ua yuam kev. Koj ntshai ua tsis tiav. Qhov cuam tshuam ntawm tus cwj pwm tseem ceeb no cuam tshuam rau tib neeg thoob plaws hauv lawv lub neej. Nco ntsoov, kev ua tsis tiav tsis tas yuav yog qhov tsis zoo - qhov tseeb, kev tawm ntawm ib qho chaw xis nyob feem ntau mus koom tes nrog kev ua tiav. (Tsuas nug Oprah Winfrey , Bill Gates los yog Vera Wang ).
Thiab ntawm no yog lwm yam uas yuav tsum xav txog - qw ceev faj rau tus menyuam yaus uas zoo siab ua viav vias ntawm cov pas liab xa xov rau lawv tias koj tsis ntseeg lawv qhov kev txiav txim lossis tias muaj qhov tsis txaus ntseeg uas tsuas yog cov neeg laus tuaj yeem pom. Cue lub self-doubt thiab ntxhov siab vim. Qhov tseeb, ib qho kev tshawb fawb los ntawm Macquarie University's Center for Emotional Health pom tias tsis txhawb cov menyuam yaus kom pheej hmoo tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab tom qab.
Tab sis yuav ua li cas yog tias koj tus menyuam zoo li lawv tab tom yuav poob lossis ua rau lawv tus kheej? Tej zaum koj yuav xav tsis thoob qhov koj tus menyuam tuaj yeem ua tau, sib cav Glowacki. Thaum peb tom peb daim di ncauj, tuav rov qab 'ceev faj,' peb yuav luag txhua zaus pom tias peb cov me nyuam zoo thiab txawj ntse tshaj qhov peb xav. Lawv tuaj yeem taug kev lawv txoj kev pheej hmoo zoo dua li peb xav. Txawm hais tias lawv yuav ua qee qhov yuam kev ntawm txoj kev, lawv yuav muaj qee qhov ua tau zoo heev. Kev ntsuas kev pheej hmoo loj hlob thiab tawg paj hauv qhov chaw no. Nco tseg: Muaj qee qhov xwm txheej (hais, hauv qhov chaw nres tsheb tsis khoom) uas cov lus yuav tsum ceev faj yog qhov tsim nyog - thiab tsim nyog.
Saib, thaum koj qw rau koj tus menyuam kom ceev faj! nyob rau hauv qhov chaw ua si, koj nyob nraum pom tseeb tsis sim mus cuam tshuam lawv txoj kev loj hlob. Koj yog dab tsi tiag tiag nug yog qhov kev soj ntsuam kev pheej hmoo. Ntuj tus hlub, taug txuj kev nyuaj thiab niam-ntawm-plaub Josée Bergeron ntawm BackwoodsMama.com rhuav tshem nws rau peb: es tsis yog kev loj hlob stymie, sim siv lub sijhawm los ua lub sijhawm rau kev txhawb nqa kev paub thiab kev daws teeb meem. Nov yog qee cov lus qhia los ntawm Bergeron (ntxiv rau ob peb ntawm peb) yuav ua li cas txhawb ob qho txuj ci tseem ceeb no xwb ntawm resorting rau cov lus yuav tsum ceev faj.
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